FOOD for THOUGHT
September 6, 2018
ON ADOPTION: When birth records were sealed...
On the very day when a child, destined for adoption is born, a heartbreaking trauma occurs. Until recently, this is an upheaval professionals in the field of adoption have never deigned to recognize as the single most influential trait of any adoptee’s psyche. Whether one wants to admit it or not, the shock of instantly separating from one’s mother is so great, that the injury stays with her for the rest of her life, worn like an invisible skin. That the adoptee is obviously there when the event occurs is often discounted. Of course, she knows what it feels like to be abandoned by her mother and then handed over to strangers. Suddenly and inexplicably severed from the one with whom she has bonded in utero for forty weeks? Taken from the sole individual to whom she is genetically, historically, emotionally, psychologically, even spiritually connected? No one should ever deny a newborn adoptee her feelings of that devastating loss. She’s been orphaned for heaven’s sake!